In order to explain how I like to work, I need to reference Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. It’s a pyramid depicted graph that showcases the different needs a human may have. It suggests that once the lower level needs are fulfilled, a human may feel accomplished enough to be able to take on more tasks. From bottom to top, the list includes: physiological needs, safety, love and belonging, esteem needs, and self actualization. It’s believed that that is where one reaches their full potential.

Here’s the thing:

I know it’s been said many times before, but I really do believe that it takes a village.

That being said — it is hard work bringing in another life!

It is also hard work learning how to learn another individual.

It’s also quite uncomfortable.

And do you know what happens when you become uncomfortable? You begin to put things off, lack self care, and tense up. Often times, being uncomfortable is just — what I like to call — the base line emotion; meaning it can amplify any other pain/ emotion you may feel.

It can cause anxiety which will cause you to be overwhelmed. If you’re overwhelmed, you’re going to want to avoid attempting/ practicing different labor and delivery comfort methods, repeatedly trying to get that nice deep latch for breastfeeding despite the first few painful encounters, taking care of yourself or your environment, or getting to know your baby so that you may learn how to maneuver with them.

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During pregnancy, during labor, after labor, and during postpartum, and even after postpartum — one might find themselves feeling unlike themselves. Your clothes won’t fit, your body aches, you’re tired all the time, your hormones all over the place — everything can begin to feel chaotic. Wouldn’t it be nice to have extra support when you’re feeling these things?

Someone to watch baby while you finally take a shower and have a nap.

Someone to remind you of things you’ll need to properly prepare for labor and delivery.

Someone to have around and talk to while your partner is at work, and your family is elsewhere.

Someone to help you feel heard and seen while your working to bring your baby out of your womb, perhaps?

My point is, as a Doula, I aim to just be there for my client.

Therefore, I hold comfortability and practice to a high regard.

When it concerns babies, especially your own, it is important to note that things take time. The more you practice doing things, the better you’ll get. You may have a goal you’re hoping for when it comes to your birth, or even a regular day during your postpartum time. For me, I like to check in every often, just to make sure you’re doing okay, and send helpful tips for labor and delivery. By having someone there who can support you, you can in return feel some relief and be able to take care of yourself and reach self actualization. You’ll finally be able to focus.

Let’s work together so that not only may you feel empowered enough to keep going, but that you may also enjoy this memorable experience. These are vulnerable moments, people. Not only do I want my clients to feel comfortable with the services, I want them to feel secured with me as well and vice versa. It’ll be a memory regardless, so let’s try to make it happy one.

We’re a team.

My goal is not to replace anybody or shut anyone out.

I plan my help out based on what I see and what I am told. Ultimately, I know you may be more comfortable with your family members doing things, so unless you tell me you would prefer for me to do everything, helping you to work together is a one priority goal of mine. I can be hands on, or just direct and let them be hands on.

It’s all up to you.